Tara Dallas

Certified Childbirth Consultant

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The first three months of a newborn’s life can be such a bittersweet time. There are many challenges for mother and baby as they transition into life as two individuals but it is also full of sweet bonding moments. When a baby turns three months old they typically begin to establish a routine and show their own personality making it an ideal time for mothers to reflect on their childbearing year (pregnancy and the first three months afterbirth). By spending an hour or two a week caring for her mind, body and soul a mother will be able to connect and care for her family even more that she would have been able to without that selfcare. With that in mind, here are some ideas to address each of these categories.


Refresh your mind


  • Reading a guilty pleasure book.In the early days your baby will be eating and sleeping a majority of the day and when you are not sleeping yourself, a book can be a great way to break up the monotony of the baby routine. Many of us reach for our most recent tv binge but reading activates your brain and is more stimulating for all of us experiencing mommy brain. You might even find yourself looking forward to those late night nursing sessions.
  • Work on your baby book or write a letter to your baby about your first three months together.Documenting all the changes your baby has experienced in this short about of time can help get those creative juices flowing and deeply engage your mind in the activity. This is a nice departure from the routine and mindless activities that constitute a large part of baby care.
  • Meditating for 10 minutes a day. Meditation can help you sleep better and have the mental strength to endure even the longest crying session.


Care for your body


  • Take a candle lit herbal bath.Warm water can soothe away any muscle aches you may have from holding your baby and adding herbs can help your perineum heal as well. The candles are just an extra touch to make sure you relax while you are in there!
  • Starting a gentle exercise routine of walking or yoga (if you haven’t already).Exercise gets blood flowing and releases endorphins which naturally boost your mood. Couple that with all the oxytocin you are producing while cuddling with your baby and you will be on cloud nine.
  • Getting a massage. All those hours holding or nursing your baby can take a toll on your muscles, so take an hour for this ultimate pampering.


Rejuvenate your soul



  • Have a lunch or coffee date with a friend. Early motherhood can be isolating in our society. Getting out of the house and enjoying some adult conversation can lift your spirits for days to come.
  • Write out your full birth story. Whether you are struggling with an unexpected outcome or reveling in your birth, writing out our experience can be cathartic. It is also an amazing momento for your child when they grow older.
  • Make a list of the things you are thankful for each day. Make the list unique everyday to keep your mind searching for the positive in every moment. Having a mindset rooted in gratitude will help you appreciate all of the small moments of joy you experience everyday and lets admit it there are so many when you are caring for a newborn.



Many of these self care ideas take 10 minutes or less but they can have significant impact on your health and mothering. You owe it to yourself and your baby to replenish.



The information contained in this article is provided for informational purposes only, and should not be used as a substitute for the advice of your physician or licensed health care provider. You should consult your physician or licensed health care provider before engaging in any exercise activity described in this article to determine if it is right for your needs.