By Laura Kreiger, LCSW

http://www.postpartumboca.com

When you become a mother, it is easy to lose touch with who you are. Prior to becoming a Mom, it is easier to measure your self-worth through success in your career or through academic achievement. However, “success” in motherhood is impossible to measure since despite all your efforts, your baby will likely not do what you want her to do!  In addition, there are not as many tangible markers of success in motherhood. As you strive for the elusive success in your new role you can be left with no time or energy to focus on your own needs.  It is important to give yourself a boost of confidence and get through the tough days when you just don’t feel good about yourself.  

Here are 4 key things you can do every day:

  • Create a list of what you have accomplished throughout the day. In the days of early motherhood it is easy to feel like you “accomplished nothing” all day and feel badly about yourself. However, I bet if you wrote down the number of times you changed a diaper, did a feeding, did laundry, communicated with friends, took care of household tasks, kept up with other “non mom related” responsibilities (not to mention kept your child alive!) you would realize -you have done a lot Mama!!

  • No matter what, get up in the morning, take a shower and put on clean clothes. It sounds basic but many moms struggle to make this happen because their entire focus is on their child’s needs. Either with the help of a partner, a bouncy seat or “heaven forbid” – A TV, take 10 minutes to yourself every morning to take care of your body. Feeling fresh and clean does wonders for your mood every day.

  • Make sure to get outside and take a walk. It’s easy to make excuses on this one- it’s too cold, too hot, the baby’s schedule etc. However, getting fresh air and at least some mild exercise will boost your mood.

  • Do at least one guilty pleasure activity. Spend time watching a reality TV show or reading a mindless book. Create a craft, eat chocolate or vent to a friend. Make sure you have some time to yourself to do something you truly enjoy- even if it’s for 15 minutes. You deserve it!

The information contained in this article is provided for informational purposes only, and should not be used as a substitute for the advice of your physician or licensed health care provider. You should consult your physician or licensed health care provider before engaging in any exercise activity described in this article to determine if it is right for your needs.